Six Rules to make people like you
Dale Carnegie
Rule 1:Become Genuinely interested in other people
Everyone is very unique and different that you would like to be friends with them. From one being the smartest boy/girl in the class or someone that is similar to you. You'd like what they are able to do. There are some that are nervous to try or even, not talk to other people. I tell you this, don't just look at the exterior of a person, instead look at the interior. Take the time to get to know the person, be interested. Not as another person(change personality), but as yourself, only them will they truly find you interesting as well. It would be nice sharing what you can do as well as the person shows them what he/she can do. The more people you know, the more you will see how every person is interesting in their own way. If you avoid people because you are nervous or just don't want to, don't worry, their will always be someone who is willing to talk to you. I say this from experience because there was one student who was shy and didn't want to talk to anyone. It took one person to step up to him and talk to him, and trust me, he was interesting to talk to and I learn many things that he can do which made him more interesting. I won't say his name but he is my dearest friend till this day and on.
Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering.
Rule 2: Smile!!!
Smiling is a key for meeting or greeting people. Imagine going up to a person, you greet them but not smile while doing it. For people that you know, you don't need to smile since you already know them. It's different for meeting new people, they will think you are weird and be cautious whenever you attempt to approach. It's always nice to smile to someone you are barely going to meet, they will think you are a nice person and will be willing to talk to you. People will trust someone more who show some emotion especially if you smile.
You don't like to smile, then force yourself to smile.
Rule 3: Remember Names
Think of a scenario where you followed the previous steps. You're doing good on the conversation and the vibe. At the end, they say their first name and you to them. You want to remember that persons name. Think about it, what if you see him/her again and you forget their name and they remember your name. How awkward and messed up it would be. Also, why not remember their names after how you guys got along. Along they way, you will encounter other people that you will get along to. You should keep track of their names to. Not only will it help you identify who is who, but people will know that you truly know them.
"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Rule 4: BE A GOOD LISTENER, ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES
To get people to like you, you must be a good listener. You gotta show the other person that you know how to pay attention to what they have to say. When they are talking about something, you make eye contact with them to show that they have your attention. If you have to say something, let them finish what have to say and then talk after them. If you interrupt them while they are speaking then that's being rude. Show that they have all of your attention because who knows, maybe it's your teacher talking and then she asks you a question to make sure you were paying attention to her lecture. If someone knows that you aren't a good listener then they won't want to take the time to talk to you because they will feel like you don't care. By showing them that you know how to pay attention and care about what they say, they will like you more than when you aren't paying attention. To encourage others to talk about themselves is to make sure they have a high self-esteem. No matter what rude comments people might say about them, they keep their head high and go on with life. They can speak highly about themselves because that's how they feel. They know they are smart, or pretty, or nice because that's what they want to be.
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist be an attentive listener."
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
By talking in terms of the other man's interest, it shows that you care about their likes and dislikes. It's a way of respect towards them because the other person will know that you listen to what they have to talk about. Even if you don't find it interesting, don't just talk about your interest towards something. You have to give the other person a chance to talk about themselves and the things they find interesting to the things they don't find interesting. When that person is speaking, show that they have all your attention and ask questions if you have to, just to show that you are interested in what he/she is saying. When you take the effort to find out what interests the other person, the reward will be an enlargement of your life each time you speak to someone. The more people will like you when they know that you actually want to know their likes, dislikes, values etc. You take the time to listen and pay attention to what they have to say and that's being respectful. If you both have something that interests you in common, then mention it. The other person would like that you go along with the conversation and see any similarities and differences in each other.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasured most."
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important- and do it sincerely
What this rule is saying is to always make someone feel like they are important no matter what. No one in their life ever wants to feel like they're unwanted. That makes someone feel bad about themselves because then they stay up in the middle of the night wanting to be like someone they're not. They will feel insecure about themselves, start dressing and speaking differently as well. I know that if someone didn't make me feel important then I would be hurt because everyone in life wants to mean something to someone. Whether it's your family or friends or people you work with or go to school with. No one should ever go through the fact that someone doesn't want them so they need to change their whole appearance. We should show respect towards them. Show that no matter what flaws they may have, they are perfect the way they are. We can also treat them how I would want to be treated or how I would treat my mom. If you go out and constantly be mean to everyone and give them attitude, then they are going to do the same thing back to you. When you're walking to the store or walking to your classroom, smile at the people passing by. That will make them happy because even though you don't know who they are, you made them feel like you care.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."
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