The Psychology of Winning

Dennis Waitley

 Quality 1:  Positive Self-Expectancy 

"Life is a self fulfilling prophecy. True winners go into every event expecting to win."
This quality means always having the thought that you can do it in your head. Whenever you are presenting a project or you're at a job interview, always keep in mind that you are going to do good no matter what. Don't start a race without the motivation to finish it. Keeping that in mind will boost your confidence up more and you won't be afraid to accomplish anything. If at first you don't succeed, then try again because the third time's the charm. If you tell yourself that you are going to win and you know you can do it, then nothing will hold you back. You winning will become a habit and you will want nothing but to win at life. Succeed and show everyone that they can do it too. At the end of the day, it helps you get better. Tell yourself you are a winner. Tell yourself that you can do it no matter what. Tell yourself that you're not going to give up. Keeping those thoughts inside your head on repeat every single day, will help you keep that confidence boost you need throughout your life.

 Quality 2: Positive Self-Motivation 

"True winners dig deep and find motivation inside themselves to get through that tough task or to learn a new skill."

To have motivation you believe in yourself no matter what. You tell yourself you can do it even though a lot of people are telling you you can't. When it comes to completing an assignment or doing an interview for a job, you need to have self- motivation so you know that you can do it. You walk in the place or present something with the confidence you have within yourself. For example, when we had to do the IDPs for 9-11th grade, we were determined to get the motivation to pass it with a good grade. If they seen we didn't look confident in what we were saying, they would tell us it's going to be fine. We just needed to keep the thought that we can do it if we just believe. Don't let people tell you can't accomplish anything when you know deep down inside that you can. Show them that their words are wrong. If you have the motivation they don't have to get something done, you're already ahead. Keep your head high and let positive thoughts stay inside your head. Block out the negative people that try to bring you down. 

Quality 3: Positive Self-Image

"True winners are confident and view themselves as competent, valuable human beings.

What we view is what we think. Looking into ourselves is one thing to view on but never doubting yourself. Always view yourself as a person with the ability to achieve your dreams. Having a negative view on yourself will change everything in a bad way. You are you, if now one else supports you, that it is up to you that you can do it. Have a positive view on yourself, be that happy, confident, amazing person you are deep inside. View yourself as a nice person above all else, doing this will raise your self-esteem, confidence, and a whole new you that you never expected to see within yourself. People around you will see a winner. They will see a blessed chile ready to start his/her day. They will see a bright light that shines all over you for never giving in and always positive.

Quality 4: Positive Self-Direction

"You gotta have direction if you are going to go anywhere. True winners know where they are going. Their sense of direction comes from the self and not from outside influences like parents or friends."

Self direction is the key to mastery. You need directions to wherever you are going in life. You can't be like a boat without its rudder because then you have no destination. You are going where the wind takes you whether it's good or bad. You need to have a path or an idea of where you will be walking down. You can either be going down the right path or the wrong path. The only one that is able to choose id you. You know where you want to go and only your feet can take you there. If you follow your dreams and keep your head high, then you will be able to get anywhere in life. You first have to start off by believing in yourself every step of the way. Once you build that confidence you need, you can accomplish anything you want. Don't worry if you start on the wrong path. Throughout the time you can always fix yourself to get on the right path. It's never too late to want to change what you are doing just to better yourself. Choose  the new life you want and forget about the old life you had. Many great things will come your way if you stay focused and know the path you are going down. You follow what your heart and mind tells you, not what other people have to tell you. That's another thing; don't let other people tell you the path you must go down. If you know that's not what you want to do or study then tell them. Follow YOUR dreams and no one else's. In the end what matters most is that your happy doing what you wanted to do not what your family or friends wanted you to do.

Quality 5: Positive Self-Control

"Total winners can sacrifice immediate pleasure for a gain in the future. Delayed gratification is of immense value in reaching your goals."

We have our flaws and we have our limitations on certain situations. Our own weaknesses can take advantage and make us lose control of ourselves. Maintaining yourself calm and focused will help with ourselves. We won't lose control, always positive will change the outcome of the bad side or flaws, however you may call it. For example a MMA fighter using anger as a weapon, anger makes you 2x as strong as your original strength but all that power can make you lose control. You can take more hits in and punches and kicks are strong but without any control of your anger, it will be a disadvantage instead of an advantage. Mindlessly punching and kicking, against a good fighter, one good hit can knock you unconscious. Controlling that anger can change the outcome of the fight since you are calm and focused on your opponent instead of your feelings. Having a positive self control taming that anger will guarantee you a win since you have 2x more strength and calm in the fight. Positive Self Control can do so much to help. 

Quality 6: Positive Self-Discipline

You have to discipline yourself or someone else will discipline you into doing what they want you to do. Total winners have the power to discipline and take control of their lives.

Self discipline is the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. If you tell them no and they don't respect that answer then you shouldn't be there with them. Follow your dreams and everything that makes you happy. Keep in mind that you control your life and you make the decisions to what you want to do. Your family isn't going to be there to make the decisions for you. They're not going to tell you what's right from wrong because that's something that you need to know already. Take control of your own life. You make decisions for yourself. You go out and do what makes you happy. In the end what matters most is that your doing what ultimately makes you happy. Yeah your family is going to be there for you and help you along the way, but they can't always make the choices for you. Once you become a grown up, it's your responsibility to care for yourself no matter what happens. If you follow what other people tell you, you won't get anywhere in life. You're going to be busy making them happy but what about your happiness? Make a change if you don't like what someone is doing or telling you. Only you have the power to to take control of your life so don't let someone else have that power against you. 

Quality 7: Positive Self-Esteem

Your mood and outlook on life affect the way you see the world and how you interact in it. Total winners are positive, powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe to those around him/her.

Self-Esteem is being able to tell yourself that you can do it. You are able to keep your head high even in difficult situations. You don't let one bad grade or one's negative comments get to you because you know you are better than that. You believe in yourself every step of the way with little to no doubt in your mind. If something doesn't end up the way you want it, don't give up. You giving up is lowering your self esteem and for you to go and accomplish more things. You are going to keep think you're a failure. In reality, no one is a failure. Yeah you don't succeed at some things but that doesn't make you a failure. You try your best and try again. Your self-esteem can be used anywhere you go. In school, your job, family etc. You always want to keep your self esteem high no matter what because that will help you accomplish the goals you want in life. Some ways to keep your self esteem high is to 1) Avoid negative self-talk. 2) Connect with people who love you. 3) Learn to be assertive. 4) Focus on your positives. There are a lot more way to keep your self esteem high but these are just the main ones to look at. Always think positive even with the negative talk you hear about yourself. Those people are mean because they are hurting themselves. Keep your head high and I promise nothing can go wrong. Don't give up and just believe in yourself all the time. 

Quality 8: Positive Self-Dimensions
Total winners like in the present. They know that now is all there is. They don't get caught up in the past or worry about the future. They simply handle the business that they can handle which is stuff going on today, now.
To have self dimension, you are looking beyond yourself for meaning in life. At the same time you don't worry about what's going to happen in the future or worry about how your past went. You simply focus on what is going on in the moment. If you focus too much on the future, you're not going to have the life you wanted as a teenager. Your future forms when everything is going good in the present. If you stay focused on what to accomplish for later on, then your dreams will come true. Being focused too much on the past and/or future, will get you distracted from what actually is going to happen in the present. You have every right to think about your future but don't get lost in it. Focus on making your future the best it can be because that's what matters. By you having the future you want, you must make the best of the present. Believe in yourself and that will take you as far as you need to go. Only you have the knowledge of what's going to happen for your life. You are the driver to your future. Make it the best ever and nothing can go wrong.

Quality 9: Positive Self-Awareness
 Total winners are aware of their power. They understand that they can be anything with enough effort and determination.
Self-Awareness is the conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives and desires. The ability to take an honest look at your life without attachment to it being right or wrong. The process of you succeeding will be stressful and sometimes painful but in the end you get a greater self-awareness. You have become more aware of what's going on in your life and the things you need to do to become successful. You don't conceive your life as right or wrong. You go by how it is now. No one's life is right or wrong because nobody is perfect. You will succeed in life and you will fail. You need to learn to not let that bring you down. You should learn from that so you can succeed once more. Keep that self-awareness with you at all times because it will help you in your life. It will help you with situations you know are coming and situations that come out of nowhere. Don't let anything bring you down. Whether you are right or wrong, keep your head high. Learn from your mistakes and move on with life. Keep on going to accomplish those goals you have set for yourself. 

Quality 10: Positive Action

Total winners take positive action in their business and with their friends and family. They are uplifting and motivating individuals who inspire the best from themselves and other

  

  

The 10 Tips for Being more Truthful

Barbara A. Lewis

Wife, Mother, religious worker, national award winning author and educator

1. Make a commitment to tell the truth.
2. Tell someone about your commitment.
3. Think before you give a dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason.
4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out part of it.
6. Don't indulge in little white lies.
7. Watch out for silent lies.
8. When you catch yourself lying, throw your mouth into reverse.
9. Talk to yourself.
10. Treat yourself when you tell the truth.

Telling the truth is very difficult to do for some people, but being 100% truthful is a challenge. Being committed 

Pyramid of success reflection
The Pyramid of success has helped me in many ways. I keep each and every one of the 25 blocks with me to remind myself how to be successful in life. Industriousness helps me because I know not to turn in any late work. I work hard to get my assignments done on time or come to tutoring when I need it. I write my assignments down in my planner or my phone to make sure I get it done on time. Enthusiasm has helped me because I have it when it comes to working on classwork or projects. I walk in all my classes with my head high and just eager to start learning something new. Friendship has helped me because I create nothing but friendship. In my opinion, I am the nicest person anyone can meet. I will always be there for you no matter what but some people just don't understand that. I keep it in my mind that I don't want enemies. I want people that will do the things I do for them and appreciate it no matter what. I'm honestly a loyal person. I won't be your friend and then talk bad about you behind your back. I will stay true to anything and get the things done when I need to. I show cooperation by listening to the teacher and coping with what she is telling me. If she needs me to solve a problem myself to show her I know how to do it then I will. I don't need to start problems or give attitude to the teacher. All it takes is cooperation. I have ambition for my goals. If I write down a goal(s), I will do my best to accomplish it. I want nothing but to achieve the goals I have written down for myself. Once I do that, my life will be set. I'm honest when it comes to anything. I will tell the truth no matter what even if I know I will get in trouble for it because I shouldn't have done something bad in the first place. I can go on and on with the rest  of the blocks but then I will write an entire book. These 25 blocks have helped me become a better person, not just in school, but outside of school too. I get done with the things I need to and stay true to myself and others. I continue to keep faith and confidence in school so that my grades will go up and show my Aunt that I can do it. In conclusion, I will continue to keep these blocks with me wherever I go. I will remind myself to keep poise and keep my head high no matter where. 

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        The Power of Resourcefulness

     Resourcefulness is within ourselves, waiting to tapped and  sprout to develop your mind even more. Starting from the bottom, from nothing. Then eventually reaching your limit when you put effort in your life. Being resourceful makes you have a creative mind.Making you become almost like a strategist. There was a time when I had to be resourceful. I was at Mexico, there was this one time I had to help my family take out this huge pile of cans and plastic bottles to a place to recycle it, the problem was, it was a mile away. I was left with carrying a big bag of cans on a rocky path, making sure the bag doesn't rip. The only thing that was ripped was my sandles and the rope that holding the cans from falling off. It was all over the place and I was barefoot, I kept complaining that how am I going to make it, I'm weak and I can't do it, why is the rope so thick
      An idea popped up in my head, I got the thick rope and made it smaller, the cut it with my teeth so I wouldn't take to much of it off. Then I tied on the bag so it can hold the cans again, then on the original thread that was attached on my sandals, I tied it with the spare rope that was left and tied it with my sandals so it won't come off when I walk. There was a price when doing it, my bottom teeth from the very from are crooked and stayed that way even now. But they didn't even ask what happened, but still managed to help at least my grandpa and grandma. I decided to carry that extra weight just for them.

Resources within me

• Drawing
• Innocence
• Never giving up
• Faithful
• Imagination
• Creativity
• Instinct
• Integrity
• Awareness
• Discipline
• Confidence
• Independent
• Responsible
• Communication
• Loyalty
• Self Motivation
• Hopeful

The Pyramid of Success

John Wooden

25 Blocks

Industriousness: There is no substitute for work. Worthwhile results come from hand work and careful planning.

This means hard work. For everything you do, you must show hard work. When you start to work, the manager always wants to see that you're a hard worker. You care about your job that you will get everything done without hesitation. There would be no slacking off or distractions. Before anything, you must have a plan. How you're going to get where you want to be and how you are going to accomplish it. Every dream of yours requires dedication and hard work. You have to not fall behind in school and make sure you keep up with all your classes. Everything will be stressful but at the end it's going to be worth it. Some people out there probably look back at when they were in school and tell themselves, "I wish I wouldn't have slacked off in high school, I could be where all my friends are in life." 

Friendship: Comes from mutual esteem, respect, and devotion. Like marriage it must not be taken for granted but requires a joint effort
Friendship is often in most schools. A person that you find that understands you, making him/her your friend. It's a wonderful feeling of friends having your back, keeping you company, and they are interesting in your point of view. There a few friends and then there are many, you don't just want some person, you want someone that can be trustworthy. Having a few friends is beneficial, they are your true friends since they are willing to spend time with you. Having a huge group of friends can be good as well, very fun times are awaiting people with a huge group of friends. All it takes is for one hangout to occur and there is a awesome afternoon. That type of bonds should never be fondled with. One wrong move and it can cause damage to that bond, less likely but be well aware. You care for them, respect them, losing them with break your heart. You can accomplish many things with a person that you get along with than a complete stranger.

Loyalty:To yourself and all those depending upon you, keep your self respect.

Loyalty is very important for every single human being to have. Showing loyalty to others proves how respectful you are towards others. Loyalty really marks you as a wonderful person. It's for the best to be loyal to others since not showing loyalty is disrespectful. Almost like respecting your seniors, the elderly, your friends, a higher ranking individual, and family. You must show your loyalty to others so you won't be seen as a bad person. People will respect you for how good you are treating others, showing that you earned their respect, and the cycle continues. Don't waste your breath on being loyal to people who don't respect you. There are times where you are loyal to everyone but you don't receive the respect the individual is suppose to give. Showing loyalty is key to getting respect.

Cooperation:With all levels of  your coworkers. Listen if you want to be heard. Be interested in finding the best way, not in having your own way.

We all cooperate in something in our lives. Whether it's in school or in a program or even at home, there is cooperation. It's mainly in when working together with someone else is when cooperation is key. Cooperating with your team can really change the outcome of your grade. The team will rely on each other and as expected, there will be amazing progress from the team. Without cooperation, you will be looked down upon and you will set yourself with a bad image. No one will even bother to work with you since you don't cooperate. Showing that you can cooperate will change everything, less stress for the whole group. Cooperation isn't just making your own way to get the job done, but the best way for the whole team can be less stressed, no confusion, and no frustration to get the job done. Cooperate so then everyone will be happy that you tried your best.

Enthusiasm: Brushes off upon those with whom you come in contact. You must truly enjoy what you are doing.

The second cornerstone of John Wooden’s Pyramid of Success is enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is an emotion. It’s how you feel about what you’re doing. If you’re not excited about your life, why should anyone else be? If you’re not excited about your work, why would anyone else get excited? It’s hard to attract customers, employers, subordinates, even a life partner without enthusiasm. You have to be enthusiastic about you so that others are enthusiastic about you and your prospects for success. The difference between success and failure is often small. The difference between big success and run-of-the mill success is even smaller. Enthusiasm is a critical component that makes the difference!

Ambition: (For noble cause)

Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something, it needs determination and hard work for you to be considered a ambitious person. What do you strive for in life? What are you willing to do to put more time on? I'm ambitious on certain things in my life that I'm interested on. I'm willing to work hard and work smart on my appearance, mainly my body image. I'm willing to feel pain, become filled with sweat dropping from my body, surpass my limits to achieve the dream body. Another is my future, mainly what will I work on and what would I like. I'm very ambitious to become a police man, I will get yelled at, it will be frustrated, always on high alert, and be 100% CTR. I'm Ambitious enough to still have the same dream and to still strive for it. I would love to have a family. I will be willing to spend time with my kids, love my wife and kids, take care of everyone, waste huge amounts of money than normally, and raise them well. I have ambition, I'll do whatever it takes to reach my goals. Everyone has their own dreams and reached and completed their goals, I'm sure you can to.

Alertness: "Be observing constantly. Stay open-minded. Be eager to learn and improve."

Alertness is being aware of your surroundings. This applies to school work, education, driving etc. If you're not alert on what's going on, you don't know what can happen. When you typically think of being alert, goal setting does not come into play. We need to stay alert while driving, be aware of our surroundings when we go from place to place, and work to remain focused and sometimes awake doing everyday tasks. Sometimes we work through our daily tasks without even thinking about them. We go to class, say hi as a formality to people we may not really know and finish our days not really thinking about whether we moved closer to any goal we had set for ourselves. In our hectic, busy and cell-phone filled lives, we may feel as if we are always alert because we are always on the go and connected to everyone and everything. Rather, the opposite is true. With our heads buried behind computer screens and phones, we may miss half the people that cross our paths. We may miss beautiful scenery or the opportunity for an important face to face conversation with a loved one or even someone new. It is often difficult to quiet our minds and to remain still, but this is when the most alertness occurs. We become completely present with our thoughts, where their taking us and what we want from our lives. Through quiet observations of ourselves and others, we become increasingly alert and sensitive to other’s needs as well as our own.

Initiative:"Cultivate the ability to make decisions and think alone. Do not be afraid of failure, but learn from it."

Initiative means having the courage to take action and make decisions. Keep in mind that we all are going to fail at times. You must understand this and not fear failure. None of us is perfect. But if you are afraid to fail you will never do the things you are capable of doing. If you have thoroughly prepared and are ready to give it everything you've got there is no shame if you fail - nothing to fear in failure. But fear of failure is what often prevents one from taking action - from using initiative.  Failure to act- lack of initiative - is often the greatest failure of all. Use good judgement based on all available information - and then use your initiative. A mistake may occur, but if it is not because of carelessness or sloppiness, poor thinking or rash judgement it must be accepted as part of your journey to success. The same is true everywhere in life. Initiative quickly but not carelessly or in a hurried manner.

Intentness:"Set a realistic goal. Concentrate on it's achievement by resisting all temptations and being determined and persistent."
  To have intentness means you are focused on your goals. When you have your mind set on a specific objective you want to accomplish. This is an important building block on the pyramid block of success. An example where this building block would be used would be for a competitive player. They will have their mind set on just winning. But this skill should not be exaggerated and you shouldn't be selfish. You should have your mind set on your goals but you shouldn't bring others down to accomplish yours. 

Sincerity:(keeps friends)

Sincerity is the mortar that binds together the blocks of friendship, loyalty, cooperation and team spirit. Therefore, sincerity is also necessary to reach the apex. Sincerity may not make a friend, but it will keep one. It often takes a while to be validated, but once a person knows that our word, character and steadfastness have withstood the test of life, a firm friendship can be established and maintained. When we realize that a friend can be counted on during times of need. When we see that his or her values don’t blow around in the breeze. When he or she stands up for us, we are far more appointed to stand up for him or her—and vice versa. Be the person that knows how to keep friends and help them out with any problems not the ones that leave them when they need you the most. Show that you are always going to be there for them no matter what problems you encounter. Show sincerity when they need to be comforted from

breakup or family loss. Don't lie to them and show they can trust you. 

Adaptability:(To any situation)

Adaptability is being able to adjust to any situation at any given time. In life, we all know that we can only be sure of a few things, specifically death and taxes. We can also count on change. We need to recognize change, grow with it and learn from it. Since change is inevitable, people who are inflexible, bullheaded or stubborn will never make it to the apex of the Pyramid. If we want to succeed, we must readily adapt to circumstances as they unfold—this includes both what we cannot change and what will take some time to change. If we fail to adapt, we fail to move forward.

  

Condition:"Mental-Moral-Physical. Rest, exercise and diet must be considered. Moderation must be practiced. Dissipation must be eliminated."

To condition you must prepare mentally and show moral restraint. So it is with us – we have to nourish our bodies, our minds, and our souls to be at the top of our game. On the physical side, it’s a blend of proper rest with a regular exercise regimen and a healthy diet. On the mental side, seek to learn at least one new thing every day. Also learn how to be mentally tough so you can withstand the inevitable ups and downs. Your condition depended on two things – how hard you work and how well you behaved when living in the outside world. You must condition into a new school or new job and do the things you need to do. If hard things come your way you must not give up. Keep on pushing through and you will make it far enough.

Skill:"A knowledge of and the ability to     and quickly execute the fundamentals. Be prepared and cover every little detail."

 To have skill it means you are good at a certain thing. Whether it's a game, or reading, or learning, you can do it no matter what. Skill is used in many things today in life as we know it. If you want to go out for a sport, you need to have some skill or experience for that particular sport. In school, you must have the skill to learn. The skill to always want to do your homework and help out the rest of your classmates no matter what. There's this quote by Will Smith and it states, "Talent you have naturally. Skill is only developed by hours and hours and hours of beating on your craft." This is saying that it takes a while for someone to have and get the skill that they want. Everyone has a talent. You may not know it but soon you will find it and embrace it. On the other hand, skill is something you must work hard to get. It takes time and practice for people that play sports to get the skill they need to play the game correctly. If you work hard enough, then the skill will come to you. Don't give up no matter how many times you failed at doing it. 

Team Spirit: "A genuine consideration for others. An eagerness to sacrifice personal interests of glory for the welfare of all."

Team spirit is the ability to cooperate and work well with others. You show each other that they can do it no matter what. You give supportive advice and help them succeed throughout anything. You have consideration for other people and don't let them give up. If they need help you are with them through it all and making sure they get it no matter what. The thought of being in a sport and having your team by your side cheering you on is the best thing in the world. This can apply to schoolwork and doing your job as well. In school, your friends will be there for you to make sure you past the test you need. They will give you a shoulder to cry on and remind you that you're not alone. In your job, your co-workers can help you on how to better your assignments or whatever it is your doing. In life, there are going to be people that want to see you fail but you shouldn't let it get to you. As long as you have those few friends that are going to be cheering you through all the good and the bad are the people that you want in your life. The ones that work well with you and help each other succeed. 

Honesty: "Honesty is the best policy."(Benjamin Franklin)

Honesty is something that is very hard for everyone to do. Being honest is the best solution, but not easy to admit, especially if you have done some wrong of any kind. I would be honest to my mother and father so then there are no confrontations, be honest with them means you love them dearly and would never hurt them. Of course, it's also easy to be honest when you are telling the truth. Knowing you have the answer to the solution, why lie, being honest is obviously what you should do. Honesty is important for maintaining trust from your family, friends, and any kind of relationship. Being dishonest with be the opposite, not being trusted from everyone around you. It's for the best that you are always honest. Always trusted and always relied on. Honesty is the best policy.

Resourcefulness (proper judgement): "Make the most out of what you have."(Anonymous)

"If you have a dream, if you have something you've always wanted to do, look within yourself because that is where resourcefulness resides; and go for it."(Jennifer Witterick)

Resourcefulness means the ability to find quick and clever ways to overcome difficulties. This means you are able to get over the bumpy roads you encounter throughout your life. You are able to enjoy what you have even if it's not what you expect. You make the most of what you have. You find ways that will make you happy no matter what. For example, I will make sure someone is happy even if at the time I'm not. It's just me but I love seeing someone else other than me with a smile on their face. It makes me happy that I'm able to help people and do the right thing without being asked because I know I would like for someone to do the same thing for me. Be motivated to make the best of what you can because things happen for a reason. If there is something good that happens, take the chance because it might not happen again. Take all the opportunities that you get and go with them. Who knows maybe it will be the thing you have always been looking for. So make the best of what you have because you only live once and enjoy life as it is. 

Poise: "Just being yourself. Being at ease in any situation."

"The key to winning is poise under stress. " This quote has meaning because it challenges you to stay calm even in hard situations. If you be yourself then you're already winning no matter what. Being under stress people tend to lose their minds and become someone they aren't. When I'm under stress I can't concentrate anymore and tend to give up. I still haven't learned how to control myself but now I do. Poise will help me calm myself down and be ease. I will be myself because being yourself will help you win in life. If you change and become someone that you aren't then you will be too busy focusing on that rather than yourself. You must learn how to come with ease in any situation and not make things harder on yourself. You have to stay calm and breathe and be yourself. Don't change who you are for anybody. Be yourself and they will like you for who you are and not who you want to be. If someone doesn't like who you are then it's because they want to be like you and just can't. Don't change, just be calm; ease no matter what. 

Confidence:"Through preparation breeds confidence"Gerald Bell in"The Carolina Way"

When you have confidence, you are never doubting yourself for what you do. When always keep your head up and keep the positive thoughts in your mind. You won't let negative things get to you because you know you are able to make it no matter what. You trust yourself in everything you do whether it's presenting or turning in an assignment. For example, I must work on my confidence for today at 6:30 pm. I will be presenting our IDP in front of many important people and I'm so nervous. I must keep in mind that I can do it and my group and I are going to do great on the presentation. I will keep my head high and breathe before and during everything. Everyone must have confidence because if not, that will hold them back. They will be too focused on the "I can't do it" and not on the "I can do it." If you know the things you are going to say and have everything memorized, then it shouldn't be a problem for you. Don't panic because it will bring you down. Have the confidence you had once you started the project to the ending of everything. If you keep it high and not let negative things get in your head, then nothing will be the matter anymore. 

Reliability: (creates respect)

Reliability is being able to count on someone and have their full trust. Someone who is trustworthy of what you say or do. One way reliability comes in handy is when doing a school project. For example, I had to rely on my team members for IDP to get all their slides done and show up for the showcase. I also had to rely on them to show up for our call to action presentation at Huntington Park City Hall. When you rely on someone, you show them that they can trust you no matter what. You are there to keep your word on the things you say. If you say you're going to show up for the presentation, then show up to it. Don't lie to not hurt someone's feelings. I want to be someone's friend if I see they are reliable and I can trust them. If someone has shown me many times that they aren't trustworthy at all, I have to let them go. I can't trust someone that doesn't keep their word. People that you can rely on would be your family. I have grown to realize that you don't quite have friends in your life. You have people that you know and talk to but that's it. You can have one or two best friends, the rest are just people you talk to. The ones you talk to won't be reliable. You can call them your "best friend" but who knows if they're as trustworthy. My family and my two best friends have always been there for me. I can trust them no matter what. On the other hand, the people I talk to I can rely on them but not all the time. I know they do things behind my back or make up fake excuses to not hang out with me. Depend on the people that are trustworthy and keep your trust, not the ones that play around with your trust and prove to you they can't be trusted. 

Fight: (determined effort)

Fight is a determined effort to do the very best we can do. It's digging in, gritting our teeth, standing our ground. When we have fight, we are always ready to respond. We are quick but we don't hurry. We make fewer mistakes because we have the level of our intensity under control. A player with fight has a contained fire burning in his or her belly. This emerges as focused passion. Players with fight never lose a game, they just run out of time. I always want to win, but I never fight with an opponent. My fight is within me. It is the struggle to be the best I can be at whatever I do. There is no such thing as losing when we've made the effort to do the best we can. No matter what, you are a winner no. As long as you know you went out and did the best you can, you already won. No everyone in life is going to win and not everyone is going to lose. If you do lose, don't give up. Use the mistakes you made and learn from them. If we use our fight and determination to do our best, success will take care of itself.

Competitive Greatness:"Be at your best when your best is needed. Enjoyment of a difficult challenge."

True competitive greatness is a learned trait that has been taught or discovered by anyone who has ever achieved greatness. To be great at anything in life including athletics, you need to have the skills, passion, and desire. To be truly great and achieve competitive greatness, you need more than this. You have to have that internal motivation to be your driving force. Sure you can become great utilizing external motivators, but if you can’t motivate yourself from within, and that is not the true, driving force that makes you tick; then I don’t believe you can ever achieve true competitive greatness. The first step towards competitive greatness comes from being competitive. Children in today’s society are taught that there are no winners and losers in sports; that just being involved makes everyone a winner. I agree to a certain point, everyone involved is a winner because they are putting a great effort into their sport; however, these children know better. They know whether or not they won or if their team won, so why not just tell them. Everyone can celebrate the fact that they have participated and gave their best effort, but the earlier these children learn the importance of competition in the world, the better off they will be.

Integrity: (purity of intention)

You could say that integrity is always doing the right thing, even when no one is looking, and even when the choice isn't easy. Or, you might see integrity as staying true to yourself and your word, even when you're faced with serious consequences for the choices that you're making. When we have integrity, we're whole and in perfect condition, and we're not compromised by awkward "inconsistencies." When we live our lives with integrity, it means that we're always honest, and we let our actions speak for who we are and what we believe in. Integrity is a choice we make, and it's a choice we must keep making, every moment of our lives. Living a life of integrity means that we never have to spend time or energy questioning ourselves. When we listen to our hearts and do the right thing, life becomes simple. Our life, and our actions, are open for everyone to see, and we don't have to worry about hiding anything.

Faith:(through prayer) Believe and Achieve. Positive Belief.

When you have faith, you believe that something will go as planned. You keep your head up and go on with life. When you have faith, you always have hope and confidence. You have to believe that you will get things done when you need it. You have faith that you're going to do good on the test you took or that you're going to get that dream job of yours. You can say a little prayer, if you believe in the lord, and believe that he can make things happen for you. Having faith comes with believing in yourself first. If you don't believe in yourself, then you won't have faith in the things you do. Keep your head high and don't let those goal buster come into your life. Kick them out because you know that you're going to be successful in the future. All of your hard is going to pay off. Believe in the things you do, because dreams do come true if you have a little faith in yourself. 

Patience: (Good things take time)

When you have patience it means you wait for your actions to come into place. Waiting patiently can build up anxiety because you just want to know the answer really quick. If you have the patience to wait, then good things will come. Good things come for those who wait. You can do so many good things in your life, but you're not going to get rewarded right at that moment. It will all take time. In time, good things will come to you for all the CTR experiences you had while growing up. If you don't have patience, then nothing will come into place. For example, when you apply for your dream college. You send in an application to attend the college you've wanted since you were smaller. Days, weeks, and months pass by and you still haven't got an email back. You get so impatient that you apply for the second college you wanted and get accepted in about a month from sending in the application. Months later, you received an email from your dream college saying you got in but you already enrolled in the classes for the upcoming year in the second college. Since you didn't have patience to wait for the email back, you now have to attend another college for a whole year until the next year to attend in the college of your dreams. Good things come for those who wait. There's nothing wrong with having a back up plan, but there's also nothing wrong with waiting. Patience is the key to success.

  

10 Keys to Personal Power

Brian Tracey

Key 1: Clarity

"Have vision. Determine what you want to be, do or have in life.  Have a sense of direction and know where you’re going.  If you do not have clear specific goals in life, you are doomed forever to work for others who do."

  Clarity is the quality of being clear knowing what you want to be and do in life. This key helps you in the future because you will be prepare you and you will kinda get a idea of what you are going to be and do in your life. Also to write down goals to help you accomplish them, like a Life Planning Goal Journal which will help you a lot and every time you complete something you write victory next to it to know you do it and need many more to goal. And you can write down goals that will take super long. For example, I want to go to Paris and your a 12 year old thinking ahead which is good to know what to do with your life.

Key 2: Competence

"If you commit to excellence, opportunities will always come your way. The harder you work, the better you get."

All want from you is to try your best at things. Giving your all to everything that you do. School is number 1, trying your very best means having a chance to be successful. Closer to reaching your career dreams by having amazing grades. Graduating with honors and being remembered as a student that really committed to school. Colleges and Universities will want you, which gives you a lot of opportunities to be successful. Which goes to show that the harder you work, opportunities will come your way. All because you stayed committed to your future. I would want to not only graduate but improve in my health and talents like drawing,singing,playing trumpet and guitar. If I become committed to myself on those perks, expect that i'll be successful.

Key 3: Concentration

  "Make the best use of your time. Ask yourself “Is this the best use of my time?” before you start anything."

Concentration requires you to put effort on what you are doing. Depending the activity or assignment, the more concentration you are using. Concentration is the what we all do to complete something, but don't waste the energy to start concentrating if it's not what you want. Think about it, why would why play violin, if I want to play trumpet, waste of concentration. When you really desire this activity, you can surely tell that he or she is concentrating. Putting there efforts on one instrument, concentrating on what note to play and how they are performing. Concentration really helps but comes at a price, anyone can break your concentration or even yourself. Try not to doubt yourself or overthink while you are concentrating, which it can break the concentration. It can also happen in assignments, that when you really should concentrate. But the again what subject are you struggling with and what are you passing. If you are very good at a subject, don't waste your energy on it, instead concentrate on the one you are failing. Knowing this will result in good scores. 

Key 4: Common Sense

• Train your mind
• think things through
• listen to your intuition
• learn from setbacks

Common sense is what we all need, apparently not everyone has it. Without it, it makes you look dumb, no matter how smart you are. A degree means nothing if you don't have common sense on you. I've heard of a saying for common sense that I found very interesting and convincing. And I quote,"It is a thousand times better to have common sense without education than to have an education and no common sense." You have to be paying attention more often than usual. From simple instructions to simple jokes, you have to be smart about it. Train your mind so the more you know, the better you have of not making a fool of yourself. Think about it, we might all think fast, but being proficient of your answer is better than a wild guess. So please, think about what is going on and never make a fool of yourself.  

Key 5: Creativity

"Except the fact that every human being is a genius.  The hallmark of creativity is asking questions.  The people who are most creative ask the most questions."

Creativity is a very interesting word, for the fact that you are committed to that will show you the beauty of it. Creativity is all in us, half of our brain would possess creativity. The other half would be intelligence. You see modern and past art, that is a good example of creativity. Imagining the image in ones head, using multiple colors to make it more appealing, even decoration or adding important details in your art. Art in the past was very detailed, describing what happened, it's been the same from generations and generations. People today witnessed the beauty of creativity, some have it naturally and some put it to practice. I draw myself, not going to lie, it was amazing, right when I'm officially done, I have a huge smile on my face seeing my work that took long and a lot of patience be finally done. I start on with another drawing, because art is infinite, why stop when I become even better now. Creativity is infinite and it will never stop, having that set of mind will take you places.  

Key 6: Consideration

"The quality of your relationships with other people will determine your success in life."

"Develop the people skills you need to become a better communicator.  Take courses in listening, speaking, etc."

"If you were to learn one new word a day, within 5 years, you’ll be the best educated person in history."

When I say consideration I mean that you have to consider everything that could happen due to a choice you make. Also, this key which is consideration can be used when you have to think about others before you choose to make an action. By think about others, I mean that you have to think abut how they would feel or think when something is said or done. It is great to be considerate because you should want everyone to like you because when people like you, they can put in a work for you. When I say, put in a word for you, I mean that they can back you up when you are in a bad position. An example of this can be when you are blamed or falsely accused of a crime you didn't commit. If a person such as a principle or teacher like you, they could help you and back you up because they know that you are a great person. Being considerate will get you for in life and help you be more well liked by others.

Key 7: Consistency

"Dependable, steady predictable work is always superior to fast spurts of work."

Be consistent in your relationships, your family, friends, your boss, your work.  Be the person that people can depend upon.  That if you say you’ll do something you do it.."

Being consistent means to always bring your A game and keep on giving effort in a steady way which is not decreasing or slowing down. When you are consistent you are never dropping, you aren't going down. Being consistent means to not increase nor decrease, it means to be effective over time. Being consistent at work is a great way to keep your job because when you are consistent at work, you are still putting in as much work as when you started to the job with the best amount of effort. Consistency is also something very important to athletes of all castigators. This is because if an athlete starts to show signs that they are slowing down, then it might be a early sign of losing.

Key 8: Commitment

"No success is possible without commitment.  The ability to commit yourself whole heartily is the basis of achieving all success."

"Become totally absorbed in your work.  Be totally committed."

This is what I expect from everyone, since everyone commits at something they love, required, or have to do. Commitment is very important for everyone. Since that's the only way to do everyday chores, requirements from school, etc. Students who commit to their work will expect a good future with good grades and good talents. Students that don't commit to what they have to do will expect a disastrous future ahead of them. It would never happen if you just do what you have to. No success is possible without commitment. If you want to improve on a sport, stay committed to it, in exchange, amazing talent at the sport. Now Academically will have to have full commitment in order to pass the class. That's just how it works, at least you gain something that can help you in your future in any career you are going for. Commitment can even be in our social, being committed to a person can make you gain a friend that will support and commit for you and you for him. Also in relationships, the happy and long lasting couples are the committed, making everything go very amazing. I would say, when I have a family, I would stay very committed to keep my loving wife and amazing kids, I don't ever want to lose them and be seen as a bad image, that's why I stay committed because it is important to me.

Key 9: Courage

"The fear of failure is the single greatest reason for failure in life."

To have courage you must not let the fear take you over. You have to conquer your fears in order to be able to do what scares you the most. To have courage it means you aren't afraid of standing up for what you believe in. If you see someone bothering another person, you will go up and tell them to leave them alone. You will be able to stand in front of an audience and give your explanation on what you believe is right. If you let your fears take over you, then you won't get anything done in life. There's this quote is the movie Cinderella Story and it states "Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game." It refers to baseball or softball and its for the players to remember if you keep the thought of striking out in your mind, then it will keep you from playing the game. You will be too focused on striking out rather than actually having fun and enjoying the game. It's good to have courage because then you will feel you can accomplish anything in the world. Tell yourself you can do it and at the end of the day, you will accomplish anything. Do what scares you the most because after you will feel good about yourself. You won't be afraid of accomplishing anything else. 

Key 10: Confidence

"You only get confidence by doing things over and over again ."

I believe confidence has a really big meaning to life. Everything that you ever accomplish and finish during your life was because you believed in yourself. You told yourself "I can do it" even if you felt like you couldn't. You believed in yourself even if other people doubted you throughout life. You always kept your head high and not let people's negative thoughts get to you. You believed in yourself when you took the finals for your school. You believed in yourself when you turned in those assignments for your grade to be good. If you ever get into the position where you feel like you won't be able to accomplish anything in the world, look at where you are now. Look at how far you have come and tell yourself that it's too late to back down now. Have confidence in your work, your relationship, your education etc. If there are people out there telling you you can't do it, don't take it personal amd let it tear you down. In fact, prove them wrong. Show them that no matter how many times they doubted you, you still came up on top. If you let people's words get to you then you won't be able to go on living life. Those words will be replaying in your mind that you will soon believe the lies these people are telling you. Let the words be an inspiration that YOU CAN DO ANYTHING. You will get that dream job of yours, you will become successful as anyone else in this world. Success starts with believing in yourself.